Hi all! First time poster here! I am getting married to a wonderful woman in November. Her sister is the Maid of Honor. At first, her sister said that she wasn't going to through a shower since it is improper for a family member to do so...of course, my Bride was very upset. After (I guess) thinking it over, her sister decided to throw the shower. We have made the suggestion, after being asked what we wanted, that it be a couple's shower. We are having a "no children" wedding (other than her Sister's daughter who is the flower girl and her other sister's sons as ring bearers) and my bride communicated that our wish was no kids at the shower either. We learned that the host has decided that her daughter needs to be there. Her other sister asked us if she could bring her boys and we said that we were trying to keep it adult only (and she had no problem)...Well, "it" hit the fan today when, in conversation, my bride reitterated the no kids policy to the Maid of Honor. She feels that since she has done all of the planning (and says her 5 year old helped as well) that it is wrong for us to ask her not to bring her....SO, my question is, are we incorrect or improper to restate our wishes, or are we being rude? I feel that we do everything with and for our family's and friend's kids all of the time, and with this being our special day, it is ok for us to have our vision realized....WOULD LOVE YOUR THOUGHTS!!!! Thanks in advance!
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The bridal shower should not be given by a family member unless they are a member of the bridal party. This is just one of many reasons.
Technically, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. If your sister is hosting there isn't much you can do if she insists on having her child present. After all, she's giving the party. If this is getting out of hand, you can decline the shower all together, that way nobody gets hurt. Besides, most couples these days do not have a need for a shower and gifts. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. The host decides on the guest list with the input of the couple. The couple stays out of the planning.
Reminder: this is supposed to be a small, intimate party. So, it really shouldn't matter if the daughter is there. It is her house after all. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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