Inviting guests to ceremony, not reception, can we invite them to shower?
My fiancé and I are planning to have a small initimate dinner after the wedding ceremony for family and bridal party only. It consists of no more then 80 people. My MOH is getting the bridal shower guest list together and is wondering if its okay to invite people who are invited to the ceremony. They won't be invited to the reception only the ceremony. Is it okay to invite them to the shower?
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Re: Inviting guests to ceremony, not reception, can we invite them to shower?
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Dear Bhogan,
Your dinner isn't a small, intimate dinner. 80 people is not a small gathering. All wedding guests are invited to the reception. It is only acceptable to host a dinner and not invite your wedding guests if only immediate family, like parents, grandparents, and siblings and your attendants are invited. The number of attendants shouldn't be high since you are not hosting a reception. Not hosting a reception is an indication that yours would be an informal affair. Informal weddings = fewer attendants. More formal affairs would require a reception afterward. So, unless you have a lot of siblings, your guest list for dinner is too large.
And, please remember that you would be responsible for the dinner tab. You are the host. Hosts host.
It would probably be best not to allow a shower to be hosted for you. You are not thanking your guests for their attendance at your wedding with a reception or gathering, which is why we have receptions. So, in essence, it would be like saying, "I want a number of my guests to give me two gifts, but they are not good enough to invite to dinner."
Inviting guests to ceremony, not reception, can we invite them to shower?
