Is it okay for bride to ask you to throw her a bridal shower?
A young friend of the family asked me to throw her a bridal shower next spring. She is to be married in early summer. She lives and will be married out of state, but now lives nearby for college. I have known this young lady for about five years (she has babysat for us)and I like her, but would not consider her in my close circle of friends. She said that some of her bridesmaids are here in town as well, but that they too are college students. She said she asked them and that they agreed to help me!
I have to tell you: I am completely floored!! When did it become okay to ask someone to throw you a party? Am I way off base on this?! The real kicker is that this woman knows that my husband and I both recently got laid off from our jobs. I am angry that she has such poor manners and that she has put me in this predicament.
The sad thing is that this isn't the first time I've been put on the spot like this. About two years ago another young woman asked me to throw her a personal bridal shower. Am I losing my mind?
TWQadmin
FORUM EXPERT
/ Moderator
Post #2 of 3
(180 views)
Re: Is it okay for bride to ask you to throw her a bridal shower?
[In reply to]
Isn't this entitlement unbelievable?
No, you're not off-base and is has not become acceptable to ask for a party to be hosted in your honor.
Since you say you're not that close with this young lady, I would simply tell her that you don't feel comfortable hosting such an intimate, personal event. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Post #3 of 3
(168 views)
Re: Is it okay for bride to ask you to throw her a bridal shower?
[In reply to]
I couldn't agree more. It is extremely poor manners to request or expect (or both) a shower. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Is it okay for bride to ask you to throw her a bridal shower?
