A family member who lives and is getting married this spring in another state is coming for a visit. She has asked her grandmother to throw her a bridal shower. When she got engaged, she requested an engagement party which we obliged, but it was a burden that had to be passed on to other family members as the core family is not in good health, nor financially able to support such an event. We are pretty surprised...is it now acceptable to be asking for parties to be thrown for oneself??
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Mar 23, 2008, 1:04 PM
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No, it is never polite to ask to have someone host a party in your honor. Plus, family should never host a bridal shower unless they are a member of the bridal party. These pre-wedding parties are all optional - no one is obligated to receive one or host one. Just say no. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 23, 2008, 1:28 PM
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Thank you for your response. Too bad the grandmother can't say no...it's not in her vocabulary, and I'm sure it's the reason she was asked.
I think I will give this young lady a tiara as a wedding gift for being such a princess Yours is lovely btw
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Being a princess isn't always a bad thing.
Maybe tell the grandmother that it would not be proper for her to host and that will give her a way out. I don't know too many brides who actually need a bridal shower these days. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree with this great advice and wish to add that only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a shower. So, this is one argument the grandmother could use. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Is it proper for bride to ask for shower?
Yours is lovely btw 
