MOB friend hosting bridal shower with limited guest list
Another MOB's friend and I want to plan a shower with guests limitedto the bride's immediate family, groom's mother (no other females are in his immediate family) and neighbors who have been close to the family (and bride) for some time. We have told this to the MOB and she seems happy about it. This could be about 25 people. We understand that only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. We are hoping that a friend of the bride, or one of the bridesmaids, will offer to have a shower that includes the bride's girlfriends and/or co-workers. How do we handle it if the bride or MOB asks us to include additional people at the shower we give? We just don't have the space or money for more guests.
FYI...This same problem came up at the bride's mother's surprise 50th birthday when the husband was upset because he wanted to invite more people, even volunteering to help pay for the additional food needed. The problem was that there was more involved than just the cost of the food. We explained why we needed to limit the number, but there was a lingering resentment that she couldn't have everyone she wanted at her own birthday party. We just don't want to get in this situation again and I can see the possibility of it happening again. Help!
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Mar 31, 2008, 4:49 PM
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Re: [MOBs Friend] MOB friend hosting bridal shower with limited guest list
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Dear MOBs Friend,
Hopefully, both of you and all of the guests are very close to the bride. It sounds as if you are. But, if you are just the MOB's friends, it could appear as if the mother, herself, is involved in the planning, which is a faux pas.
As hosts you can set the total number of guests. The bride should have some say in this though. She should be asked if these are the guests she wishes to attend.
If the mother or bride wishes to invite additional guests than you are willing to host at this optional party, you have every right to say no and point them to any etiquette book. They do not plan or invite.
MOB friend hosting bridal shower with limited guest list
