We are having a rather large floating shower (4 hours) at a church for all of her friends and family to attend. We will be serving food as well, but the MOB insists that we set up chairs only in a circle around the Bride and not use tables. I personally feel like the guests would be more comfortable and less awkward to eat and enjoy themselves seated at tables. Especially since this is a rather long shower. Am I wrong to put my foot down or should I just accept her wishes?
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How is she getting involved? I would just not communicate with her. There shouldn't be any reason for you to contact her or discuss the shower.
You're correct to always consider your guest's comfort. So, yes, you'll need some tables. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dear JLynn,
I agree that we always put our guests comfort first. And, the mother should not be involved in the planning or hosting. But, I must chime in about your plans. This shower is not polite or appropriate. It is more of a wedding reception and can appear greedy. In effect, by inviting so many people, you are expecting most wedding guests to give two wedding gifts (shower and wedding). Why should so many be expected to give two gifts to the same couple just because they decided to marry? This is not polite and is viewed as greedy and presumptuous--not great labels. And, some will be thinking this even if they do not verbalize it.
A shower should be a small, intimate affair with no more than 35 guests, which most people find as large. All guests must also be wedding guests, hence the need not to burden so many with the need to purchase 2 gifts for the same couple.
Please read our many posts concerning shower etiquette. All of this information is also written in all etiquette books that include bridal shower information.
MOB taking charge of bridal shower.
