After reading your postings and seeing first hand I now know why family members should not plan a shower regardless, the MOH ( sister of groom) ,MOG, MOB, and the Aunt of bride are all throwing a shower. the bride has requested to be left out of details ( thank god for her sake) she is very politically correct and big into etiquette. The shower is planned as a cocktail party and only will only have close family and friends ( 50 people - over the 35 recommendation but the brides family is not cutting back there number but requested grooms side to even though costs are distributed evenly). The brides family has made most of the arrangments without opening the discussion up to the group and shut down all attempts to help, along with dismissal of all opinions. The grooms family is trying to keep the peace and not cause any conflict as this is a happy event but also feels many details are untactful and needs a polite way to address concerns without coming across negatively. Although this is a cocktail reception alcohol will be a cash bar...I personally feel some beverage should be provided even if its a bottle of wine at each table or champagne etc..Ive never been to a cash bar shower and am not sure if this is appropraite to ask guest to purchase there own beverage along with providing a gift??
Also the bride and her family have decided that gifts not be opened at the shower but a posible gathering the next day with closest friends...Isnt a shower suppose to be an intimate gathering with closest friends? regardless I find it extremely rude to not open gifts, games can even be used to help make the process a fun experience. I have never been to a shower where this was acceptable but the brides family insists this is a new trend. the grooms side finds this completely unappropriate and would be embarrassed to be listed as a host to such "new traditions" is this acceptable to not open gifts?
I know this situaton is tough with family involved, but I need advice to give to grooms family where they can be Politically correct and handle the situation with tact by expressing there concerns. I know they have been trying to not rock the boat for fear of causing drama for what should be a joyous event. ANY AND ALL HELP MUCH APPRECIATED thanks!
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MOG/MOB shower, not opening gifts?
