I need help! One of my best friends has asked me to be her matron of honor, of course I said yes, accepting full responsibility for all that the postion entails. The wedding is in 3 months yet the exacts are not all planned and I'm not even sure exactly who is definitely in the bridal party. It's all a little confusing and though I try, I don't get to talk to the bride much because she is so busy. I don't work and as all of my friends know, I am home (with my kids) 99% of the time and have tried to be more than helpful. Problem - the bride has also asked an old friend of ours to be in the wedding as well, a friend that none of us have maintained much contact with over the past 10 years, that has suddenly crawled out of the woodwork at word of a wedding though she has been MIA for other important recent events without a word. Now the bride has appointed her maid of honor and she has taken over - calling relatives about a shower that is already in the early planning stages between the original bridesmaids (who are family members and myself who is very close to the family) I know the newly appointed maid of honor will take over all aspects despite anyone else's opinions, but being the shower was my responsibility as Matron of honor and I am the host (I've been told by others now the shower will be at my house)shouldn't I be arranging? I am willing to include others thoughts and ideas but I feel I was initially appointed and it is in my home I would be doing most of the planning not this other person.
Sounds like you better have a talk with this woman. Find out who the other bridesmaids are/will be and set up a meeting so you can plan the shower and any other pre-wedding events you might be considering. Everyone involved must agree to the terms and the costs ahead of time.
If that doesn't work you'll have to bother the bride with the problem and ask her to intervene.
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Matron or maid?
