This is the first time I have hosted a bridal shower and I have a few questions. When my friend first told me about the guest list it was around 25-30, which I can manage both space wise and cost wise, however it has now jumped to 45-50 people and the mother of the bride is unable to attend on the day that the bride has chosen. Since changing the date us out of my hands, and since weather will not allow it to be held outside is it acceptable for there to be two bridal showers, one for the family and one for the friends? This would solve many problems, however the mother of the bride sees it more as a burden we are placing on her, I am more than willing to do two separate showers if it can better accomodate people. Is this realistic, what does etiquette say?
It is certainly acceptable to have more than one shower. Showers should be intimate affairs where the bride gets to talk to each guest, so a guest list of 45-50 is way too big anyway. Remember that you do not have to invite every female who has been invited to the wedding. The shower should be for close friends and family only.
Since you are hosting the shower, you should be the one to decide how many guests to invite. I always advise the hostess to decide upon a number of guests that can be accommodated, based on budget and room available, before asking the bride for a suggested guest list. That way, you can provide the bride with a limit on the number of guests that can be on her list.
You are being most accommodating by offering to host two showers for your friend to solve this scheduling dilemma.
Best wishes, Sandy Riffman
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