I am having a small wedding in a few months - under 50 people. I was informed by my Matron of Honor that since I'm having such a small wedding I don't need a shower. I'm very hurt by this. I know it isn't "mandatory" to throw someone a shower and I wasn't even wishing for anything extravagant but I'm feeling like my wedding isn't important to anyone beside myself and the groom.
I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I cannot tell you what is in the mind of your friend but, as you know, she isn't obligated to host a shower for you. And, most couples these days don't need a shower. If there are only a few wedding guests then it is a good possibility that your friend feels that there will not be enough guests to make the party worth your while. This doesn't have to mean that she's not your friend or that she doesn't deeply care for you. And, let's be honest, your wedding will not be as important to anyone else as it is to you and your groom, with the possible exception of your parents.
Try not to feel disappointed and focus on what's important, like you and your groom exchanging your vows in the presence of friends and family. Some people aren't even lucky enough to meet and marry someone they love, nevermind have a group of people attend the event. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
JudyL
Jun 23, 2007, 8:12 PM
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That has absolutely got to be the most beautiful thing I've ever had said to me. Thank you for putting it back in perspective. You are absolutely right, this wedding isn't as important to anyone as it is to my fiance and I, with the exception of my daughter who is absolutely beside herself with joy.
No Shower Being Thrown
