My MoH threw me a bridal shower last weekend. After the shower I made a list of all who attended to help me with the thank you cards, then I went through the shower cards and wrote who bought what, etc. I was sure to send thank yous to those that didn't attend, but gave a gift, and a special thank you to all of the helpers.
What I noticed, though, while compiling my list, is that my Future MIL and SIL didn't bring a gift. (SIL is a bridesmaid as well.) I thought this was a little unusual, and perhaps I had missed the gift, or that they hadn't brought a card, so maybe their gift wasn't recorded, so I mentioned FSIL, very politely, that I hadn't noticed a card from her/them. She said no, they hadn't brought a gift because money was tight.
It's okay that they didn't bring a gift - but I'm curious if I should mention to FSIL (after the wedding) that showers are in fact a gift-giving activity, especially if you're a bridesmaid, and that she should be careful of this in the future?
What do you hope to accomplish by teling her that showers are indeed a gift giving event? Probably, all you will accomplish is to embarass her and maybe even hurt your relationship.
It's best to simply say nothing. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
No gift from FMIL?
