Only party of the bridal party wants to give a shower gift
I am one of 4 bridesmaids hosting a shower at a restaurant for the bride this weekend. The other 3 bridesmaids have just informed me that they will not be giving the bride a gift, because they feel the shower is her gift. On top of this, they feel we all need to do the same thing (not give a gift) so that no one feels "stupid". I disagree and bought a gift for the occasion.
What should I do? Give the bride her gift at the risk of having the other girls mad at me? (they all know one another and I'm the odd man out), do I give the gift in private? Please help!! I was always taught that you give the bride a gift regardless if you're throwing the shower....
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Re: [rachelcdavidson] Only party of the bridal party wants to give a shower gift
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I would try to discuss this with them again since they are going to feel "stupid" if they don;t give a gift. The party is an optional event that you choose to host, you're not obligated. So, giving a gift is still necessary. Let them know all of this and be able to document it from this site and/or a good etiquette book.
If they insist on not giving a gift tell them that you would feel uncomfortable not giving one so you will. If they are angry, they should be angry with themselves, not you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 6, 2007, 12:37 PM
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I agree. We can only do what we feel comfortable doing and cannot control others feelings. If they feel uncomfortable, it is not your fault.
And, all gifts are given at the same time. So, you would give her your gift with the others at the party. Perhaps no one will notice the absence of the other bridesmaids' gifts anyway. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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