Friends of ours became engaged at the beginning of this year and set a wedding date for December. When they became engaged, we immediately offered to have a shower for them and they did not respond to requests for a date. Just recently, we were told that they were too busy to have the shower before the wedding and to have it after the wedding. They have planned for the wedding for ten months, sent out save the date cards six months in advance, and have had other showers. I am very uncomfortable having a shower after the wedding as it looks like a plea for another gift. HELP!
You're right, this is why showers are to be hosted before the wedding and only include only guests who are very close to the bride and groom. Plus, most brides today don't need even one shower, nevermind two or more.
The bridal shower is an optional event. It sounds as if your friends really don't need a shower, since they have already had more than one, so it can be skipped. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree. Multiple showers?? This is not proper or fair to the wedding guests. It just may appear as if the couple didn't want to miss out on double gifts from every wedding guest. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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