I am the mother of the groom and two close friends have graciously offered to host a shower or "party" for the couple. Both of these ladies are mothers of the groomsmen. My son (the groom) is active duty ARMY and has very limited time at home. In fact we have been working on a 5 week planning cycle for this event due to his military training schedule and future deployment. Is it proper to have an event shortly AFTER the wedding and is it called a couples shower or just a party celebrating their marriage? I would not want to encourage anything unacceptable but all of the guests are aware of the short timeframe in order to pull this off.
Please note: It should also just be a smaller group of people more on our side of the family since the bride has a few family friends that are hosting a large bridal shower just for her immediately prior to the wedding. Only myself (MOG) and my son's 2 grandmothers were invited to this one and some of our family and close friends wanted to do something special for both of them, but we don't have a lot of calendar time available. Please help!!
An after wedding shower is not appropriate. It is like saying, "We didn't receive enough wedding gifts, so give us more." This party could be a reception. But, all wedding guests would have to be invited.
Please advise the couple that a large bridal shower is viewed very poorly. Showers are only hosted by those close to the couple (not family unless also an attendant), no more than 35 guests (small and intimate), before the wedding, and only those invited to the wedding may be invited.
Post Wedding Couples Shower
