I am a bridesmaid in a wedding with nine bridesmaids.
Recently, the MOH emailed the bridesmaids with various "options" for the bridal shower, each ranging from $200-400 per bridesmaid, and told us that if we are taking part in the wedding, we must pay. While some email conversations regarding shower and bachelorette planning had taken place, I told the MOH months ago I would not be participating in the shower.
Upon receiving the email being told we must pay, several people made suggestions of cheaper options and I expressed the concern that while I am happy to chip in, I would not be attending and am uncomfortable paying that much. The MOH then selected a venue and told us we will all be paying $250 (at least) for it, and to just "show up" if we have a problem with paying when we won't be there (it is 3000 miles away).
While technically I can "afford" it, I am already spending over $3000 on the wedding (not counting destination bachelorette). I do not feel I should have to pay for something I did not plan or agree to, especially when my cost concerns have been treated with rudeness. What is the correct thing to do here? Please advise!
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edited by Stunned on May 17, 2007, 1:52 PM)
You're right that you shouldn't have to pay for something you didn't agree to but the only thing to do would be to call the maid of honor and tell her. Also try polling the other ladies to see if you can have a united front against this one woman. After all, this is not a reception, it's a shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree. Obviously she doesn't realize what a proper shower is supposed to be or any of the etiquette involved. Perhaps all of you could persuade her to read our site or any etiquette book.
This is supposed to be a small, intimate party.
Keep your wallet closed Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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