My daughter got married at the courthouse on Monday with only 2 hours notice given to her brother and parents(us). No one else attended and they do not want a reception. We will be sending out wedding announcements(is that ok?). Is there any restrictions to whom we should send the announcements.
In Addition, two sets of my friends(mother of the bride) have offered to give showers. I am confused as to if this is ok to do and is it called a shower? What is it called if not a shower?
Wedding announcements are fine. These can be sent to anyone who needs to know that your daughter is married.
Only those invited to the wedding should be invited to a wedding shower. So, a shower is not appropriate. A welcome or get to know the happy couple tea or brunch is appropriate. This should not be considered a gift giving situation though.
Some may wish to give your daughter gifts and this is fine if she wants to accept them. It is just best that these are not given during the gathering. It could possibly embarrass those who didn't bring anything for her.
Shotgun Wedding/shower etiquette
