My aunt is throwing me a bridal shower 6 weeks before the wedding. It is our family tradition that aunts throw bridal showers. We planned on also including my fiance's family members in this shower.
Originally, the MOG said someone from her family would only be throwing a couple's shower a few months before the wedding. She just informed me that her family will also be throwing a separate bridal shower and that we do not need to include her family that is not immediate in my aunt’s shower.
My aunt would like my shower to be honored as the main shower and my mother wants it thrown first. Is it reasonable for me to ask the MOG to have her family throw us the other shower 4 to 5 weeks before the wedding, after my aunt’s? She suggested to have it 2 weeks before my aunt’ s shower (8 weeks before the wedding).
I really don't care when the showers are and would somewhat prefer to not have a third shower. However, I’ve realized my opinion barely stands in these matters, and I am trying to remain diplomatic and please both parties while not offending the other.
Perhaps an etiquette book would solve all of your problems.
This is a prime example of why family, especially moms, should not be involved in the bridal shower. Your mother and his mother (major no-no) have taken it upon themselves to ensure your opportunity to garner the most gifts possible--moms do this, it is only human nature. But, 3 showers?! Is it really fair to request and expect so many wedding guests to give more than one wedding gift to a couple? Hum.
Here are the rules: the shower should be a small, intimate event with no more than 35 guests (which is considered a large shower); only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a shower; no one besides parents and attendants are invited to more than one shower; and finally, there should be no more than 2 showers.
Please try to inform your family of these rules to avoid embarrassment and possible negativity. You could tell them that you don't want others to consider you greedy by allowing so many showers to be held in your honor.
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