One of my grad school friends is getting married in August. She lives a few towns away, but her wedding is in Pittsburg near her parents, about a 7 hour drive from here. Because of the distance, she is not inviting her grad school friends to the wedding. Another friend of ours, who is not a bridesmaid, has decided that regardless, she would like to throw a shower. She has invited us all to the shower, even though none of us will be invited to the wedding. The shower is not a surprise and the bride has been helping plan it. I have plans on the day of the shower, so I am unable to attend. All things considered, is it still expected that I send a gift? I don't want to be rude, but I am not sure what the etiquette is when the shower is for women not invited to the wedding and the bride is helping throw it for herself. Thank you!
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May 17, 2007, 7:11 PM
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None of this is appropriate. Only those invited to the wedding should be invited to a shower and we do not host gift giving events for ourselves.
If you're not attending, you aren't expected to send a gift. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Jillkk4
May 17, 2007, 7:28 PM
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That is pretty much what I thought, but I thank you for confirming it. I am always afraid of appearing rude, but in my opinion, it was a little odd to be invited to such an unconventional event, so I wasn't sure of the appropriate course of action. Thanks again!
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May 17, 2007, 8:03 PM
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Bless you for caring about being appropriate. Please know that, even for conventional showers, if you don't attend you need not send a gift, but it;s your choice.
If you're unsure you can always send a card or "a little something". Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Shower for Uninvited Guests?
