a very good friend is getting married in two weeks time. she has requested that we join up with her college friends for the shower. after taking in all suggestions, it was agreed to have a spa bridal shower for her. we also agreed that each of us would avail of one of the packages with the bride choosing from the more expensive of the packages.
the rates are pretty steep, as we also have to pay for our own package and then we divide the cost of the bride's package among us. are we still obligated to bring her bridal shower gifts, especially that she has hinted about gift ideas, considering that aside from the spa, we are still having dinner afterwards? thanks very much.
The bride should not be requesting a shower, let alone suggesting themes or locations. If all of these friends are also invited to the wedding, and you would like to host a shower for her, the host pays for the event and the guests, including the bride. If a few of you would like to group host then get together and decide on the time, place and costs. No one is obligated, including the maid of honor, to host a shower. It's an optional pre-wedding party.
What you're proposing sounds more like a bachelorette party. This party is typically offered by the close friends and family members and is a shared expense. The bride does not pay and there are no gifts. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
thanks for the fast reply. just want to be cleared though, what is the difference between a bridal shower and a bachelorette party? i have read lots of your posts and have an idea what the bridal shower is, but not about a bachelorette party. thanks in advance.
Spa + Dinner + Gifts?
