Hello. I just received a call from another bridesmaid asking me what I thought about throwing a shower for the bride. I of course agreed that I would be on board for such a task. Then she explained that she wanted to do this next weekend! Not only is this short notice, but the wedding is not until July.
Her reasoning was that she does not plan on coming to this area again before the wedding. However, I feel that this is selfishly motivated and not in the best interests of the bride. If I am going to help plan and throw a bridal shower I would like to do it right. I especially would like to give the maid of honor input, as is tradition, even though she is out of town and probably not capable of planning it herself. Also, this bridesmaid lives near very inexpensive transportation in order to travel to the area where myself and the bride are located. I feel as though she could sacrifice another weekend closer to the event as part of her bridesmaid duties. Am I being unreasonable?
Can you please tell me the proper etiquette on the earliest a bridal shower should be in relation to the wedding and also confirm for me that the guests should be given about 4 weeks notice before through invitation before the event?
Thanks!
TWQadmin
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Oct 30, 2007, 9:19 PM
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You're not being unreasonable. Bridal showers should not be held so far in advance. The party is supposed to be a party to help those closest to the bridal couple feel as part of the planning process. This is usually done closer to the wedding date - from 2 months to 2 weeks before the wedding. Plus, and we hate to bring this up but, plans can change in 7 months.
It would be difficult to plan this party on such short notice; expecting parents, friends and family members to be free. Three to four weeks should give guests enough time to prepare. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Oct 30, 2007, 9:47 PM
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I complete agree--very much so. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Oct 31, 2007, 1:28 PM
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I agree that these are not the circumstances under which to throw a shower. You should not assume, however, that traveling another weekend will be easy or financially sound for the other bridesmaid. You might offer to put together an informal gathering of the local bridal party so everyone can start getting to know each other before she leaves town so she can feel included. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Too early to throw a bridal shower?
