We are having a very small wedding about 50 ppl. It is mainly close family, we both come from divorced parents so we have lots of intermediate family. I have one close friend I am inviting and FH has about 6.
We were thinking we would originally not have a shower. We did not feel comfortable asking for gifts from our close family when they were helping us pay for the wedding. One of our close friends that is invited to the wedding asked us if they could throw a shower for us. They really want to do this for us, and have already started planning what food they wanted to have. But we do not feel comfortable inviting family and them feeling like that have to bring gifts, if we exclude them it would be like 6 people. Should we get over this, is it stupid to feel this way? Should we tell the couple no thank you? Or should we just maybe purpose the idea of calling it an engagement party? We have no clue what to do!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
/ Moderator
Apr 23, 2008, 2:17 PM
Post #2 of 2
(314 views)
Re: [mygirl20] Too have one or not to have one
[In reply to]
Dear Mygirl,
You could ask your friends to host this as a gift-less shower. This is becoming more and more common and seems very appropriate in this situation.
Too have one or not to have one
