I am a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding. It was decided to have two showers as she lives in one state and her family in another state. I have agreed to fly to one state and help host the one that I am flying to. I am now finding out that the family expects the bridesmaids to pay for both showers regardless of which shower we chose to attend. I was not part of the original decision to have two showers and therefore was suprised when I found out their expectations. Both showers have apparently been planned and invitations already sent out, so changing the venue/expected costs is not an option. I also do not want to step down as I think that it is an extreme measure and I value my friendship very much. Two other bridesmaids and I have voiced our concerns to our friends family and have been told very directly that it is our financial responsibility and proper wedding etiquette that we pay for both. I would appreciate any advice you can give me.
Another great reason family should never host a shower. Sigh.
Showers are optional events. I don't know where these family members get their information. Unless you were asked and agreed to pay you have no responsibility, other than attending if you are in the area. I don't see the need to travel great distances to attend a shower, even if you are a bridesmaid, and especially since you're already hosting a shower in your town. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
You mean we don't deserve to get everything we want? boo hooo... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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