My husband's brother was to be married in spring of '08. A few weeks before the wedding, the brother and his fiance decided to called it off (and break up) with no date set for the future.
Before the brother's wedding, a shower was thrown for his fiance. I, along with everyone else, graciously gave gifts... but no gifts have been returned since the calling off of the wedding. Although the couple initially broke up, they have gotten back together, but still no date has been set or even discussed regarding a future wedding.
If the couple decides to eventually get married and (hypothetically) another shower is thrown, do I need to give another gift if I'm in attendance?
Thanks!
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edited by answersneeded on Dec 12, 2008, 4:25 PM)
The couple should have returned all gifts, so you may want to inform your brother. If they do decide to marry, they really shouldn't accept another shower, as it is impolite to invite the same guests to a shower for the same couple. If a shower is hosted, you are not obligated to give another gift.
Perhaps they were both hoping that they would reunite so they considered the wedding postponed and, therefore, decided not to return the gifts until they were sure.
If they keep the shower gifts, another shower really shouldn't be hosted unless it's a giftless shower. I'd politely and discreetly let the groom know what's proper.
So, if the gift does not get returned, as Rebecca said, you do not have to give another gift. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Unreturned Shower Gifts
