My cousin is getting married at the end of the month. My sisters and I are of dating age and some are in serious committed relationships. Although we visit our parents often we do not all still live at home. My family received one intivitation for the wedding and reception sent to my parents home and addressed to the "Smith Family." I understand this to mean that my sisters and I are not supposed to bring our significant others because they were not included in the invitation. My grandmother doesn't think that it would be a problem for us to bring our significant other but I still maintain that unless specifically invited you do not attend. Some clarity on this issue would be appreciated.
Second, my mother received an invitation to a bridal shower addressed to "Alice Smith." None of my sisters or myself received an invitation to the bridal shower. Does this mean we are not invited and should not attend the bridal shower? It probably should be noted that my sisters and I are not close to our cousins. However, I can see problems arising whether we do or do not attend regardless of how invitations are addressed. Therefore, I would like to be able to say that I was following the proper etiquette.
Thanks, Confused about Wedding Etiquette
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Re: [jiggytigger] Wedding and Bridal Shower invitation
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Dear Confused:
When a wedding invitation is addressed to a family it usually means everyone living in the home. So, the invitation addressed to The Smith Family would include all members of the family living at that address. Adult family members living at other addresses should receive their own invitations. If you are living at this address then you are invitated. If your name is listed on the inner envelope as "cousing Susie and Guest" then you are invited with your significant other; if only your name appears there then only you are invited and you should not bring a guest.
Bridal Shower Invitation Etiquette: It appears that only Alice Smith has been invited to the bridal shower. The bridal shower guest list is not a repetion of the wedding guest list and is usally a more intimate gathering of only the closest family and friends. Since you admit that you aren't that close with your cousin it makes sense that you would not be invited to the shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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