The bride has reluctantly had to change her big plans for the wedding to a more cost efficient intimate ceremony and reception. Approximately 40 are now invited down from about 200. The list includes parents, grandparents, siblings and the bridal party. The bridal party would still like to host a bridal shower, but do not know who to invite. Are the aunts and cousins (all close to the bride or groom) allowed to be invited or even really close friends?
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The shower should be a small gathering of those closest to the couple, but only those invited to the wedding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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What if the aunts have expressed an interest in being invited to the shower once they found out that the wedding list was going to be reduced and therefore exclude them?
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Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower. But, if some ask to attend, there is room, and the host agrees, then they may. They are not expected to give a gift. They should also be advised of the etiquette involved and why they were not invited and why they are not obligated to give a gift. Of course the bride should have the last say on whether she feels comfortable with them being invited since they are not on the wedding guest list.
If it were me, I wouldn't allow them to attend because it is still like excluding them from the "main event", but allowing them to attend a potentially gift giving event celebrating the up-coming event.
Who gets invited to shower when wedding is small?
