I am one of the bridesmaid in a friend's wedding next month. The groomsmen and bridesmaids are hosting/planning a combined shower for the couple where 30-50 guest will be invited and we may not know ALL of the guests. We are also hosting separate out-of-town bachelor and bachelorette parties for the couple and are all chipping in to cover the couple's expenses. The bride is the first to wed in our group of friends and we are mostly all recent college graduates so we don't have much experience with the planning and traditions nor do we really know who is supposed to pay for what for the shower. By the way, we're skipping the bridal shower and wedding shower (What's the difference anyway?) and going right to the combined shower. Please help...thanks!
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Re: [bebe19] Who pays for a combined shower
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I'm not sure what you mean by, "We're skipping the bridal shower and wedding shower and going right to the combined shower", since the wedding and bridal shower are the same event, just different names and all showers are optional.
Now, on to your combined shower. I have never hear of this terminology but I think you are referring to the couples (or Jack and Jill) shower which is not just for the women. For any type of shower, whoever offers to host the shower is the person who pays. This person should not be a family member unless they are an attendant. Others can choose to help host or can be asked to help but they must agree to host. Everyone should discuss the where, when and costs and agree on them. Be sure that everyone on the guest list is a close friend or family member - no need to repeat the entire wedding guest list.
You might want to get a good wedding etiquette book from the library or at the bookstore (these make great gifts, by the way!) since you're not up on all of the wedding etiquette stuff. Or, you can just stop by and visit us here when you have a question.
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Who pays for a combined shower?
