I am the mother of the groom. Our future dauther-in-law's shower is being planned. However, a lot of our family and friends have never met her! Should they be invited to the shower? I don't want them to be left out but I also don't want them to think we are just inviting them for the gift. I would really like them to meet the bride before the wedding.
Jeanne in Delaware
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Re: [WB624jcb] Who should be invited to the bridal shower?
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Dear Jeanne,
The shower really isn't the best place to meet the bride. This party is supposed to be small and intimate. You could have hosted an engagement party for them and still could if the wedding is some time from now. But, all those invited to an engagement party are supposed to be invited to the wedding. Your friends may not be on that list. The couple decides who is invited, so you may have to ask them.
Also, an engagement party is not supposed to be a gift giving event. And, mothers are not supposed to be involved with the planning or hosting of the shower. So, if the host comes to you asking for guests from your side, you may give her/him those names of people close to your son. But, the total number of guests shouldn't exceed 35 for the entire party, meaning that there will be few she/he can invite.
Who should be invited to the bridal shower?
