I'm the bride...and most of my family lives out of State. My future sister-in-laws and two good friends are giving me one big shower (my bridesmaids). Now my problem is do I invite everyone? Should I assume that my co-workers will give me a shower at work and not include them? If I invite all the family members and friends, we are looking at over 80 people. I know that they won't all come, but lets say half do that still 40 people and that many gifts. The bridesmaids have booked a local hall and will have to bring in food ect. Cost is a concern! We have the hall for only 3 hours. So how do I include everyone, not include others still have a nice shower and be able to spend time with the guests, eat & open gifts with that many people in that amount of time???
Help!!!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 17, 2005, 12:13 PM
Post #2 of 2
(1040 views)
Re: [LorinTed05] Who to/not to invite for One Shower
[In reply to]
Dear Who to,
This is very unusual. I'm not even sure how to answer this. A shower is usually much smaller so the guests can actually feel as if they are a part of the wedding process. I can't imagine how your guests will feel anything but overwhelmed.
As etiquette is concerned though, you may give your bridesmaids a list of everyone you wish to invite as long as those people are also invited to the wedding.
Your future sister-in-laws are bridesmaids, right? I thought that is what I read. If so, they can co-host this with no etiquette faux pas. But, if they are not, please ask them to be in the shadows. Family does not host.
Who to/not to invite for One Shower
