My daughter is getting married this fall. She has three scheduled showers to look forward to. One by her close workmates and brides maids, one by her Aunts, and one by my friends.
I was recently told by my mother-in-law and by one of my sisters-in-law that it was proper etiquette to invite all the hostesses to all of the showers. I have been to many, hosted many. but never heard this before? Do you have any advise? I don't want to offend my mother-in-law or sister-in-law but I think they are way off base.
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Jun 18, 2007, 10:24 AM
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Re: [wendygott] Who to invite to multiple showers
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Dear Wendy,
Actually there are a few etiquette breaches here. Family doesn't host as it is viewed as self-serving. Family will typically do whatever they can to garner more gifts for family. It is only human nature. So, the shower her aunts host is not proper. Plus, your friends shouldn't be hosting a shower unless they are her friends as well. Parents are not supposed to be involved in any way and this appears as if you are just by them hosting.
Finally, she should not be having more than two showers, with the exception of the workplace shower. So, this is one shower too many. With this many showers it is as if she will be receiving two wedding gifts from each female wedding guests. Hopefully only those invited to the wedding will be invited to these showers. This is a main rule as well.
The hosts of the other showers wouldn't usually be invited because it is as if you are asking them for another shower gift. The only exception is concerning the attendants. They are invited to all showers, but don't have to give multiple gifts.
It may be best for all hosts to read our many posts concerning bridal shower etiquette in order to host a proper shower. There are a number of 'rules' because this is usually a gift giving event and could be viewed as a gift grab if improperly hosted.
Who to invite to multiple showers
