I received an invitation to a bridal shower. The wedding took place two weeks ago. The bride,groom,mother and father of the bride where at the only people invited to this ceremony perfomed in the ministers office. This was called a " No wedding wedding." There was no wedding reception that followed the 5 minute service. This will be the second bridal shower. As the mother of the groom I can't help but think this is a gift grab free for all. The newlyweds have been together for 2 years. I sent the a very large wedding gift to a wedding that no one on the grooms side could attend even if they had been invited, now I get this invitation to a bridal shower with a gift registry. Some of the request are obscured, for example: 2 microwaves, 2 T.V.'s 10 lamps,,, the list goes on from there. I talked to my son about this messy situation. He told me he had no input to any of the plans, and the gift registry was done by the bride and her mother. How do I explain this to ALL the great grand parents, grand parents, Aunts, Uncles and the sisters and brothers? I want to run away as fast as I can! What should I Do?
Sincerely, mother of the groom
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Oct 19, 2007, 10:06 AM
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Re: [ftruglia] Invited to a post wedding bridal shower.
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Dear Mother of the Groom,
I would want to run away too. Yikes! This is a mess.
Perhaps you could decline the invitation with an explanation. You could point them toward this site or to any etiquette book where they will find that only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a shower. A shower must be held before the wedding or it does appear to be a gift grab. And, more couples are opting for the gift-less shower because they don't need the 'extra' help setting up a household.
It appears as if her mother is involved in this shower. So, this is a perfect example of why mothers shouldn't be involved. This is so inappropriate. Hopefully, she isn't also hosting it.
This is the second shower?!
I don't know how you could explain this to your family except to let them know that you are not on board with it. They definitely do not need to attend or send a gift.
Invited to a post wedding bridal shower.
