My best friend is getting married and decided not to have bridesmaids or Maid of Honor because she wanted a small wedding.
She also said that she couldn't choose between me another friend and her sisters for Maid of Honor. Then she tells me to get in touch with her mother regarding her bridal shower. I guessed her mom wanted help with invites etc.
When I called her I basically got all shower responsibility dumped on me including 1/2 of the price! I felt like all the other maid of honor potentials should be helping too and let her know she needed to contact them.
Unfortunately I have now learned that our other good friend will be out of town that weekend, so I don't want to ask her to pay for anything. Her sisters haven't contacted me but they are already paying for wedding stuff and I don't want to have to call them and ask them to pitch in money either.
What do I do? I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but I know the bride is stressed and I don't want to cause a huge fight two weeks before wedding!
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Mar 7, 2005, 8:33 AM
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Re: [kara5] coerced into Shower hosting
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Dear Coerced,
This, I do not understand. You can't be forced into hosting someone's shower. Even if you were one of her bridesmaids or the Maid of Honor, it is still your choice. Traditionally, yes, the MOH would at least offer. But, there is still the 'choice'.
If you did not offer to host a shower, but am now ordered to do so, say no. The mother should not have been involved in any way and shouldn't be 'dumping' anything on you. Plus, what 'wedding stuff' are the sisters paying for if the bride is not having bridesmaids?
This is very puzzling.
You also stated that the bride wants a small wedding. This means that the shower guest list should be small also. Only those invited to the wedding can be invited to the shower.
So, again all of this is your choice. Neither the bride or her mother can 'tell' you to host. It is your choice and yours alone.
coerced into Shower hosting
