embarrassed about shower guests not invited to wedding
I want to start by saying that I would never dream of inviting anyone to a bridal shower that wasn't also invited to the wedding. That being said...
My sister/MOH and my mother are throwing me a bridal shower. (I know there are some etiquette problems there as well, but it's a very common practice in my family). My mother put the guest list together, and she has invited a number of relatives, and a few people I work with, who are not invited to the wedding. At this point it is not possible to invite them to the wedding. It's a small affair, and there simply isn't room. And I obviously can't un-invite them to the shower.
Is there anything I can do or say to make this situation less awkward? I really don't want it to look like a blatant gift-grab. I also don't want anyone to feel left out when people start talking about the upcoming wedding while at the shower. Is this fixable, or is it just too late?
- Lisa
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Sep 14, 2008, 3:09 PM
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Re: embarrassed about shower guests not invited to wedding
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Dear Lisa,
This is why there are those pesky etiquette rules. It is unfortunate some consider the "rules" outdated or irrevelant. It is also unfortunate that there isn't much you can do at this point if they have already been invited, except to have a private conversation with each informing them of the situation.
It might also help to ask your mother and sister to notify all guests that this will be a gift-less shower. Even though the gift-less shower is still a wedding guests only affair, this may help to tone down the "gift grab" feeling.
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