guests invited to bridal shower not invited to wedding
A friend has offered to give a bridal shower for my daughter-in-law to be. The wedding is going to be a small family affair and in another state. Many of the guests whom she plans to invite to the shower will not be invited to the wedding. What should I do?
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Nancy Tucker
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Sep 12, 2005, 6:55 AM
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Re: [nancy mlekodaj] guests invited to bridal shower not invited to wedding
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Dear Nancy,
Your shower guests would normally be invited to the wedding also. However with destination weddings becoming more popular, guests at hometown showers are not always invited to the wedding. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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Sep 12, 2005, 1:12 PM
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Re: [nancy mlekodaj] guests invited to bridal shower not invited to wedding
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I'm sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree.
Actually, from an etiquette point of view, this rule hasn't changed. The only time guests to a shower aren't necessarily invited to a wedding is for the work shower. These are typically small affairs where a joint gift is given.
But, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. Yes, destination weddings are becoming quite the thing. Even so, we wouldn't want people to give us shower gifts and not have the opportunity to enjoy the wedding. A big part of the shower is to create an environment for the guests to feel as if they are a part of the wedding planning process.
Wedding showers are an optional event and at times not appropriate.
Anyone who knows the couple, whether or not they are invited to the wedding, can give them wedding presents. This is often the case. So if these people want to ship a gift to the couple for their wedding, they may.
For this family, the wedding isn't a destination wedding but one that is out of town. Perhaps instead of a shower, your friend could host a 'get to know the bride' tea. If everyone knows her, it could just be a celebratory tea. It shouldn't be considered a gift giving situation though.
I don't know how you can tell your friend that this would be viewed negatively except to just be honest.
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