I work at a church, in a different state as my parents. I moved here to work at this church, I am leaving the church to move to another state and live with my future husband. The church is throwing me a church wide bridal shower, kind of as a going away party and as a "we're happy for you" party.
My question is what do I do about hostess gifts?, I have been told that the church is throwing me the shower but there are about twenty people who are bring food and setting up and helping out.
I want to do everything right but I am moving in a couple of weeks and we don't have a lot of money to buy hostess gifts for twenty people. Is it appropriate to give a monetary donation to the church in honor of the hostesses of the shower for the hostess gift? Also do I need to send every person that gives us a gift an invitation to the wedding (that is in another state)?
I know that showers are typically supposed to be close friends and family but this is a different situation so can you help me out, please.
Signed,
Bride to be that wants to please
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Oct 30, 2007, 2:09 PM
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Re: [ihavequestions] hostess gifts for bridal showers
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Dear Bride to be that wants to please,
This is typically beyond proper etiquette, as only those invited to a wedding may be invited to a shower. This is something your church has decided is proper. But, let's approach this like we do a workplace shower since you work there.
We are not obligated to invite those from work to our weddings even if they host a shower for us. Plus, we usually give the hostesses a thank you card for their efforts.
It is important to handwrite thank you notes to all those who give you a gift as well.
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