My MOH and my mother threw my bridal shower. My mother bought and prepared all the food, and my MOH bought and prepared the favors. She also sent out the invitations. There were a few people who RSVP'd and said they were coming but didn't show up. At the end of the shower, there were left over favors and my MOH insisted on keeping them and wanted to take them to her office to share with her co-workers. I let her have them for the sake of not creating any friction, but my feelings were kinda hurt. Was I being selfish in thinking that those favors should have gone home with me, to give to whomever I wanted to share those with?? Or, did she have the right to keep them?
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Sep 4, 2007, 9:13 AM
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Re: [shaniesmom] left over bridal shower favors
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Oh dear, why are you worrying about something so small and really insignificant? Bridal showers are optional events so, if you got one, be thankful and appreciative.
Now, on to the etiquette. Mothers should never be involved in planning or hosting a shower and this is one of the many reasons why. But, bringing favors in to her office to people who are not invited to the wedding could be insulting. The hosts of the shower really get to decide what to do with the leftovers, however, if it were my party, I would have given the bride a couple of favors and kept a few for myself.
You're planning a wedding, which can be very emotional and stressful. So, don't sweat the small stuff and try to keep it all in perspective. Move on from this and rather than see that you didn't get leftover favors, see that you got a wonderful bridal shower which hopefully you enjoyed to it's fullest! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
shaniesmom
Sep 4, 2007, 9:28 AM
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It was my MOH who gave the shower, but my mom helped with the food and decorations. It was a beautiful shower and it was very much appreciated! There was very hard work and a lot of love put into it! My only concern was the etiquette of the left-over party favors for future showers. Thank you for your advice, its very much appreciated.
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