mother of bride hosting shower for bride's side only
I am the groom's mother and was asked by the bride's mother if I was going to host a bridal shower for my side of the family and friends. From what I have read, I should not be, so what is the best way to respond to the bride's mother? 4 out of 5 of the bridesmaids are on the bride's side of the family and they are hosting a shower, possibly for just the bride's side of the family and friends, which I believe they are inviting everyone on their side that is invited to the wedding, so it will be rather large. I'm thinking that they didn't want to include my side. Please advise me on how to respond to this matter. Thank you.
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Re: [grmsmother] mother of bride hosting shower for bride's side only
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Dear Groom's mother,
Wow! This is not good and most likely will be viewed as not only excessive, but greedy. After all, wedding guests will be expected to give a wedding gift. Now, most on her side will also be expected to give a shower gift as well. That would be quite a haul--and that is exactly how it is viewed.
It may be best to inform the mother of the bride that you have read about shower etiquette here and in etiquette books and know that it is not proper for you to host. Then, as tactfully as possible let her know that the shower is supposed to be a small, intimate affair. It is not supposed to appear to be a reception. The number of guests should not exceed 35. A smaller amount would be even better.
She really shouldn't be approaching you about a shower. It is like asking you to garner more gifts for your children.
To be honest, many couples are opting for gift-less showers because the traditional gift giving shower isn't typically relevant in our lives these days. Plus, it is fairer to guests.
mother of bride hosting shower for bride's side only
let her know that the shower is supposed to be a small, intimate affair. It is not supposed to appear to be a reception. The number of guests should not exceed 35. A smaller amount would be even better. 