I have two questions: First, should a stepsister be hosting a couples shower for her step brother and future wife? I thought it was a no-no. I am hosting a shower for this same couple (a kitchen and tool party) and asked for her phone number because she is throwing them an all around the house party. Wouldn't it make more sense for her to put her finances with us, and combine the two? Second question, for this kitchen and tool party, we cannot really afford to provide alcohol, is there a nice way to say "byob", or just leave it blank and spread it through word of mouth? or what?
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Re: [titans] need etiquette for couples shower
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The stepsister would be considered a family member and really shouldn't be hosting a shower but there are those areas where this is consdiered to be OK. I would try to stay out of it. If you want to ask the stepsister to combine the showers that woukd be perfectly acceptable but be careful about how the topic is approached. Tell her that, if your resources are combined, the two of you together could throw a really awesome shower. Is she agrees, great. If not, I would steer clear of telling her she is breeching bridal shower etiquette.
There really is no polite way of asking your guests to bring alchoholic beverages to your shower. Perhaps you could make a champagne punch or just serve wine and beer which would bring down the cost of providing a full bar setup. Of course, there is no rule stating you must provide alcoholic beverages either. If you cannot afford any of the afore mentioned options then simply omit the alcohol completely. You can make up for the lack of drinks with an awesome menu. Please see Bridal Shower Ideasfor more information.
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