I live out-of-state and intend to attend the wedding of my friend's daughter. However, I will not be able to attend the bridal shower, to which I have been invited.
Should I send a gift for the shower, or is my wedding gift going to be sufficient? Am I obligated to send a gift to the shower?
Ms. Peggy Post, Emily Post's Etiquette, states that an invitation to the wedding shower and wedding obligates the guest to buy a gift. This is one of the very few times I disagree. I believe that all gifts should be from the heart--all. So, if that is the case, how can a piece of paper force a person to purchase something when the feeling is not there? I don't believe that you are obligated.
It is your choice to follow either advice. Always do what is best for you.
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