My fiancee and I have had sooo many people offer to host wedding showers for us. Most of them are people that we both know and had already planned on inviting to the wedding. However, my future mother-in-law has a group of 10 or 11 friends that want to throw a shower for us. Our guest list is already getting outrageous and if we allow these people to throw us a shower, we will have to add all of them plus their spouses to our guest list. I have never met any of these women and my fiancee does not know them either... they are FMIL's friends, not ours. We had no intention of inviting any of these people to begin with. Would it be rude for me to decline their shower offer so that we don't have to invite them to our wedding?
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Nov 8, 2004, 5:49 PM
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Re: [randysgirl] ok to decline shower offer?
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Dear Randysgirl,
Yes, you may decline the offers. It would probably be best that your groom talks to his mother about this and that she declines for you. After all you do not know these women.
Re: [randysgirl] ok to decline shower offer?
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Dear Randy's Girl,
I suggest a heart to heart talk with your mother in law to be. Let her know that you are just so honored by their offer for a shower, but that since there is no chance they would be invited to the wedding, you do not feel comfortable having them host a shower in your honor. It is up to your future MIL to communicate with her friends. She can tell them the truth or she can politely decline saying that there are just so many showers already in the planning that you are going to have to decline.
ok to decline shower offer?
