out of town family throwing shower days before wedding
My stepmom and I are planning a shower 3 days before the wedding for my to-be sister-in-law. We are all coming in from out of state for the wedding. My stepmom thinks I should include something (a note) in the shower invitations that if they aren't coming to the wedding they can send their shower gifts with someone who is making the trip (10 hrs.). I think it is tacky, if someone wants to send a gift they will figure out how to get it there, rather than us telling them how to. Am I right?
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May 16, 2007, 10:13 AM
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Re: [mellyb] out of town family throwing shower days before wedding
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Dear Mellyb,
Yes, I agree with you. And, this is a great illustration of why mothers really shouldn't be involved in showers. Mothers will try to garner as many gifts as possible. It is only human nature. Actually, you really shouldn't be involved unless you are also an attendant.
Wedding gifts should be shipped before the wedding to the home of the bride. But, no one is obligated to send a shower gift. That would be like asking for two wedding gifts.
It isn't proper to host a shower just a few days before the wedding either. So, it would be better for a friend of the bride to host one. If no one wishes to volunteer, the shower shouldn't be held.
Please ask your step mother to read our many post concerning proper shower etiquette or any etiquette book. A shower must be hosted with proper etiquette or it could appear as a gift grab. This is another reason the gift-less shower is becoming so popular these days.
out of town family throwing shower days before wedding
