I am the maid of honor. I live out of town but I am still trying to be there for everything. The bride's mother is trying to invite 100 people to the shower. The bride and the bride's mother have been living in this town forever. So, they want to invite everyone and their cousins. What do I do? Is that too much?
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Are you hosting this shower or is the mother of the bride (which is not appropriate)? If you are in charge and making the plans then you get to choose the guest list which only should include those closest to the bride and, of course, only those invited to the wedding.
If the mother is hosting (inappropriately) there isn't much you can do except maybe dropping hints to the bride that this is too many guests. perhaps buying the bride an etiquette book would help.
Good luck with this. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I couldn't agree more. The mother shouldn't be involved and this is a prime illustration of why. Mothers tend to try to garner as many gifts as possible for their daughters--it is only human nature.
Hosting a shower for this many guests is not only improper, it is appears greedy, like a gift grab in the worst way. There should be no more than 35 guests invited and all should also be invited to the wedding. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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