My FI and I are both older, and have recently merged two households. We already have too much of everything, so have decided not to set up a registry.
In case my sister (MOH) wanted to hold a bridal shower, I thought I would share with her an idea I used for a friend's shower - a money tree.
I recently found out that, because family and friends are so spread out (within NJ & PA), and some financial difficulties for some bridesmaids, that my sister is planning on sending out invites requesting donations to a money tree in lieu of a bridal shower.
I know that this is a bad idea, but I don't know how to convey this to her. My mother says she doesn't see anything wrong with it, because my friends and family would want to help us any way they can. I feel like this is asking for two wedding gifts.
Please help me out of this situation before I have some very annoyed friends.
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 22, 2005, 10:40 AM
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Re: [Jenn&Bobb05] wedding shower gifts but no shower
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Dear Wedding Shower,
Actually, this is in the worst taste. To ask for money or to have a money tree at a shower is not ... well, it is in bad taste. A shower is a party not only to shower the bride with gifts, but to help everyone feel as if they are part of the wedding process. To skip the shower all together and ask for donations is, as you say, asking for two wedding gifts.
One way to, hopefully, dissuade your sister is to set up a honeymoon account. Again she or anyone else should not state that guest should contribute to it, but when people ask, they can be told. You can also set up a wedding web site and include this information. These are very simple to design.
wedding shower gifts but no shower
