We've decided to have a private wedding, parents, grandparents, siblings, and extremely close friends only. No aunts, uncles, cousins, etcetera. We wanted to use our extremely small budget for the honeymoon instead.
We have all the furnishing we need for a home, we're not asking for gifts or money or anything really.
My uninvited family has been vocal about them not being invited to the wedding and the reception, which is being held in a space that cannot accommodate them. They don't seem to understand my financial constraints, which angers me that they seem to demand a wedding that they don't have to pay for.
I'm thinking of hosting a bridal shower to at least give them some sort of party. However, I want to know if this is appropriate, etiquette-wise. All family complaints aside, is it appropriate to have a shower with people who aren't going to be invited to the wedding?
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Re: [Hillary] Shower without a wedding?
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Dear Hillary,
It is never appropriate for a bride or her family, unless also an attendant, to host a shower. The bride never requests it either. And, it is never appropriate to invite those not invited to the wedding. It is appropriate to host a reception for those not invited to the wedding. Since you can't afford it and they want it, they could host it.
wedding shower without a wedding?
