My cousin is getting married in August. I am the matron of honor and I am working with the rest of the bridal party to throw a shower. My cousin and her fiance are not registering for gifts because they have been living together for a couple of years and pretty much have everything. One of the other bridesmaids wants to throw a Jack and Jill shower on a Saturday night. She is convinced a Jack and Jill shower means the couple will receive money instead of gifts. I don't believe this. I don't want the shower to have anything tacky...such as money instead of gifts. I also don't want a Jack and Jill shower, because most men don't want to attend a shower and if we do invite couples, the shower will be too large. I may suggest to the couple to register for their honeymoon, as they are paying for everything. What is your feel on Jack and Jill showers and Honeymoon registries?
I have never seen anything written about Jack and Jill showers with reagrds to the gifts given. I believe that a shower guest will give the gift they want and will not be swayed by the type of shower.
Showers should be an intimate gathering of close friends and family and not a duplication of the wedding guest list so your idea of the traditional shower here is a good one.
Having the couple register for the honeymoon gift registry is also a good idea however, guests wil choose to give what they want anyway and may not choose to give to the honeymoon. They might want to think about registering at another traditional registry and select items they may noit have or need more of.
Alternatively, you could have a theme shower such as a lingerie shower. Who couldn'y use a little more spice in their lingerie wardrobe, especially if they have been together for a while?
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