13 year old daughter doesn't want to attend mom's wedding
Hi I am hoping you can assist me with two questions that have been driving me crazy. I am getting married for a second time. I have a daughter from my first marriage who is 13. We are in the process of planning a destination wedding - elopement. My daughter does not want to come. She is the typical 13 year old who is scared she is going to miss something happening with her friends. Also she is frightened that she is going to be missing too much school work since she enters high school next year and is taking all advanced courses (we need to book before we get the timetable for her courses). We are planning on just going away to get married without sending out invitations but if others wanted to join us they are more than welcome..but more than likely it will just end up being my fiance and myself (and daughter if she comes). Is it wrong to leave my daughter at home with her grandparents who will not be attending (due to health reasons) or should I be making her attend with us? My fiance thinks we should just leave her if she does not want to attend since we are having a reception when we come back, but I have the nagging feelings of being a bad mom if I leave her behind. I do not know, I have been thinking about this for months now. What are you thoughts?
Any help you can assist me with would be greatly appeciated. Thank you
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You won't be the first mother to elope. I wouldn't feel guilty.
But, have a talk with your daughter to let her know how you feel. Perhaps she doesn't understand that both of you may regret this later on. Perhaps you could include her in the actual ceremony. There is a unity family candle ceremony that might be nice for all of you. It would be a good way to let your daughter know that she's not losing a mom, she's gaining a stepdad and increasing the number of people in her family who will love her. Explain that this is a one in a lifetime event. Try to schedule the trip around her school vacations.
Let us know how this works out. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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13 year old daughter doesn't want to attend mom's wedding
I wouldn't feel guilty. 