Asking bride's parents to pay for destination wedding
My friend and her boyfriend decided to get married.
He doesn't have a job, and his parents have nothing to contribute. They want to have a destination wedding, with just the two of them, no parents. HOWEVER, she wants her parents to pay for it all, plus a party afterward!
I'm trying to convince her that this is ridiculous, but I need to make sure that this seems insanely wrong to someone else.
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If this man isn't working, they probably shouldn't even be getting married. But, you didn't ask me about that.
Parent's aren't responsible for paying for a wedding anymore. But, it's up to the parents to decide if they will pay. Hopefully, they will decline since, as a mother I wouldn't condone a marriage of my daughter to a man without a job.
And, before you say I'm old fashioned , I wouldn't condone my daughter being out of work either. Unless the couple is wealthy, they should both work, at least until the children come along.
So, while your friend may want to ask her parents to do these things for her, she shouldn't expect them to and the parents shouldn't feel obligated.
If I were you, I would stay out of this mess. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thank you for your reply. I think I forgot to mention that he still lives with his parents.
I'm just trying to talk her out of all this, but I think you are right. It will probably fall apart on its own.
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Oh my! This is not pretty. Perhaps you could mention that you were perusing etiquette books and found that in these modern days the couple is responsible for all of their wedding/reception costs. And, that they, the couple, are responsible for all their living costs from the day they wed. Their parents don't have to support them any more. There are no bail-outs for those who wish to live on someone else's dime. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Hmmm, according to our government, there does seem to be bailouts for those who wish to live on another person's dime. Where do you think these kids get the idea? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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It sounds as though neither of these people are independently wealthy. If the parents end up paying for the destination wedding, this will be setting precedent for a lifetime of bailouts and heartache for everyone involved. Lindsay Williams, Professional Travel Consultant, Here Today Gone to Maui
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Asking bride's parents to pay for destination wedding
, I wouldn't condone my daughter being out of work either. Unless the couple is wealthy, they should both work, at least until the children come along. 
