Attending sister's destination wedding if I cannot afford it.
My sister recently moved from her home state to another state with her fiance (who is also from the same state as my sister). Families from both sides live in the couples home state. My sister has decided to have the wedding in her "new" home state which means that the entire family, from both sides, must fly to her state, rent cars, stay in hotels, and pay for meals out. For my family of four, this will cost at least $2000 for 3 nights (airfare alone is $1200). My initial feeling is that her decision was quite selfish and I did not plan on attending (no invitations have been sent out yet). But now I am feeling guilty since she is my sister. Am I obligated to attend her wedding if it will cause a financial strain on my family? I am not only concerned for my family, but for my other sister and the groom's family as well. What do you think?
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Re: Attending sister's destination wedding if I cannot afford it.
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Dear Jpotful,
This is very common and is not selfish on your sister's part. Why shouldn't she want to marry in her current state? This is where she lives now, wedding planning is easier, and her new life is there. There is nothing wrong with her choice.
Her guests, including you, decide if you want to attend based on your relationship and the costs involved, which is also very common when it comes to weddings and other family events. This is all very normal and nothing to be upset about.
You have every right not to attend if you feel you cannot afford to do so.
Attending sister's destination wedding if I cannot afford it.
