I am the maid of honor in a destination wedding being held outside the country. I have looked through many wedding etiquette websites, and they all say that the hotel rooms for the members of the wedding party should be paid for by the bride and groom (or their parents). However the bride has not offered to pay for our rooms despite several subtle hints from me and another bride's maid. I am already paying for my dress and shoes, plane ticket, food, and several other expenses which adds up to approximately $1,500 to $2,000. Plus I am expected to fly across the country to host her shower and bachelorette party a few months before the wedding, which will cost another $500 to $600. I don't think she understands that this is a lot of money to spend on someone else's wedding. I don't want to be rude to her, but is there a polite way to let her know that it is proper etiquette to pay for the lodging for the wedding party for a destination wedding? Thank you!!
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You could simply inform her that you have read that it is proper for her and her fiance to pay for their attendant's room and ask if this is what she plans to do. Then you can decide whether or not you wish to continue to be involved in her wedding. This should have been discussed at the beginning. It is unfortunate she doesn't know this.
All pre-wedding parties are optional. If you do not want to participate, you don't have to. It isn't mandatory.
Bride won't pay for wedding party's lodging
