My fiancee and I are planning a destination wedding. We have sent a "save the date" e-mail to family and friends. The positive response has been more than we expected. A friend who was single at the time of the "save the date" e-mail has sent me a message saying she and her new boyfriend (of about six weeks) are coming. My fiancee has already had one friendship end because her friend wanted to bring her (creepy) boyfriend, with whom she had recently rekindled her relationship (they have broken up and got back together several times).
I find it difficult to know what to do, because a destination wedding is a holiday with a wedding in the middle.
The fundamental question is, how do we treat singles for a destination wedding, who might become involved with someone in the interim and would, naturally, think it wonderful to bring their new relationship on a beach holiday.
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You're really only obligated to invite spouses or significant others. But, as you have experienced, some friends could get annoyed. This is their perogative, though, just as it is your perogative to invite only those guests you want to be with you witnessing your exchange of vows. If you do not want the friend to bring a date then you should tell them. You can say you have a limited budget, limited space, or you can just say you want to keep the ceremony as small and private as possible. Then it will be up to the guest to decide if she would like to attend. Hopefully, your guest will understand. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Agreed. Also, these are only supposed to be correspondence to alert your guests to the "date" and event. It isn't supposed to be an invitation, although with the destination wedding most guests reply with their intentions. When you send the invitations you can reaffirm who is really invited, including their escorts. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Thanks for both the replies. I have a follow-up question. We have been asked by several invited guests if it would be okay to bring their new boy- or girlfriend for the holiday but not include them in the wedding or reception.
Almost all of our guests will be staying at the same hotel, where the wedding is taking place. My fiancee and I feel there would be enormous pressure to simply say "oh just join us" to any holidayers who have not been invited to the wedding, rather than send them off on their own to some other place for the evening.
Any advice on how to handle this situation?
Thanks
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Bringing a date to destination wedding
