What is the proper etiquette for inviting people to a destination wedding? The mother of the Groom has not been exactly pleasant and is the only parent who has said she will not give any money to the budget. We have decided to only have parents, grandparents, and siblings. What can we do about the rude mother who has said hurtful things and seems to be not supportive? Also, the grooms brother has said hurtful things in the past and have not been almost anti-supportive of our blossoming relationship, are we required to invite them? How can we go about telling them they aren't invited without looking like the bad guys? Thank you so much for any help!
Your parents aren't obligated to help pay for your wedding. So, if your groom's mother didn't offer, she's not being rude.
How does the groom feel? It's really his decision if he wants his mother and brother to be invited. If he's sure he doesn't want to invite them then he should speak to his family and explain that this is his decision. However, having a discussion with these family members could help clear the air so they can be invited. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I couldn't agree more. An invitation to your wedding shouldn't be based on who contributed or who has been supportive of your relationship. There are many reasons people are not supportive in the beginning.
The etiquette related to inviting guests to a wedding is that the couple chooses the guests based on their relationship with them. If we have the money in our budget, we should also ask our parents if there is someone special they would like to include--we offer a number of seats.
The parents who contributed are very generous and were not obligated to give. It might be best to do something nice for them in return. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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